Nesting

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by Rita H. Azar on March 24, 2015

Bonjour

There is one thing I heard a lot before I got pregnant and that is “Pregnant woman nest.”  I didn’t quite understand what it meant until I became pregnant.

I’m now in a state of mind where I feel disconnected from the outside world, in my bubble.  And, this is probably why I have been keeping for myself and not blogging as much as I usually do.

All I want is preparing our home for the arrival of our child, wash her clothes, get her nursery ready…

It’s as if my mind had only one focus, our daughter; how will she be; what will she like; how will I build a strong relationship with her.

There are two quotes that describe well how I have been feeling.

 

A pregnant woman does not know what she is.  She has been overtaken.  She feels sick but she is not sick, she lives underwater, where there are no words.  The world goes funny on her; it is accusing when she is delighted, and applauds when she feels like shit.”

– Anne Enright, Making Babies, 2004

 

And…

 

“Learning that you are finally pregnant is like being told you have a winning lottery ticket.  You’re delighted, but you’re not going to celebrate until you have the cash in your hands.”

– Sushi Das, Deranged Marriage, Random House Australia 2012, p.269-270.

 

But, I have to admit that I did celebrate on Sunday as I was spoiled at my baby shower which was organised by my sister-in law!

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Baby shower 1

Baby shower

Did you feel disconnected from the outside world when you were pregnant for the first time? 

What have you been up to?

Au revoir! 

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[email protected] March 24, 2015 at 3:06 pm

Lovely to see you blog again Rita! I am so excited about your pregnancy. I cannot wait to meet your daughter. Ok I’m a bit far away, so at least see a photograph of her! I think what you describe is normal, particularly when your pregnancy was long waited for. I can completely understand you feeling like you’re in your own little bubble and feeling disconnected from the rest of the world and life as you previously knew it. It took me 7-8 years to get pregnant with my twins (boys) and I was definitely in my own little bubble for the duration. I also know nesting very well. It is SO much fun to set up the nursery, get all the cute little clothes and accessories ready. I remember loving seeing all the freshly washed nappies and baby clothes blowing in the breeze on the clothesline. Such little things gave me so much joy. When I had my second baby, I still nested but wasn’t able to give myself that bubble time like for the first pregnancy as I was so busy with the twins. Beautiful photos of your baby show. Love the photo of you and of the gorgeous baby in the cradle made from fruit – so clever. Enjoy this time Rita, and before you know it you will be a mum with a beautiful daughter. So exciting! :-) xoxo
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[email protected] March 24, 2015 at 3:08 pm

Ooops – I said ‘when I had my second baby’. That was my second pregnancy but my third baby (a girl) :-) xo
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Rita H. Azar April 29, 2015 at 1:49 pm

Thank you so much Min! I can’t wait to see her! Hope you’re enjoying Tasmania!
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Alarna Rose Gray March 24, 2015 at 4:20 pm

Wow, Rita, what a beautiful baby shower spread! The fruit salad is too gorgeous to eat! Nest away, you have earned the right to enjoy the experience. Apologies for my absence…I’ve been necessarily nesting in a whole different sense. How long now until you are due?
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Rita H. Azar April 29, 2015 at 1:51 pm

I’m due any day now Alarna!
I hope you are well and found work that you enjoy.
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Angele Azar March 25, 2015 at 9:43 am

Happy baby shower Rita! I am so excited to see you and to see the baby. I count the days to be near you my lovely daughter. You wrote a nice blog reality and natural what you say. See you soon!

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Rita H. Azar April 29, 2015 at 1:52 pm

Not long to go now mum!!
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Janet aka Middle Aged Mama March 25, 2015 at 11:10 am

Absolutely! I was obsessed with my baby/pregnancy – why not – you only get to do it a couple of times (usually) in your life so why not enjoy it I say. Your baby shower looked like fun – love that watermelon!!!!
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Rita H. Azar April 29, 2015 at 1:54 pm

You’re so right Janet!
Baby shower was great fun!
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My Inner Chick March 25, 2015 at 11:25 am

OOOOOOO, such a beautiful shower, gorgeous cake, how fun!!
So happy for you, Rita.
Great quotes!! xxxx

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Rita H. Azar April 29, 2015 at 1:52 pm

Thank you Kim!
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Rebecca Patajac March 25, 2015 at 1:00 pm

Hello Rita :)
I am currently carrying our 3rd little one, due April 27th! When is your little bundle due?
I hope the pregnancy is treating you well, it’s a gradual change to your body but there can be some horrible side effects. I’m finding that 15 minutes of yoga a day is doing wonders for the joints.
In regards to nesting, yes, I remember washing everything for our 1st little one, folding it all neatly and packing it all away into specific drawers. Scrubbing her room from top to bottom and ensuring her bed was perfectly set up. I do understand being in that little bubble where your sole focus is on bub and nothing else seems quite as important as making sure everything runs smoothly for bub’s arrival.
I wish you all the best with the pregnancy and delivery! Don’t stress too much about getting everything right, things seem to fall into place when you have a bub; you do the best with what you know and that’s all you can do. It’s a life experience like no other, and I pray you’ll have the confidence to forgive your mistakes; we all make them, more often than people may let on :)
Take care of yourself, and enjoy this phase of the journey.
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Rita H. Azar April 29, 2015 at 1:58 pm

Hi Rebecca,
I’m due any day now…
Huge congratulations on the birth of your baby!
Thanks so much for your kind words and for stopping by my blog.
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nancy March 26, 2015 at 12:36 pm

If you think that when you are pregnant you are in your bubble, wait until you have your baby. The first 6 months, you will feel like you are leaving in a completely different planet and the world around stops completely… The feeling is crazy.

I remember when Jesse was about a month old, my mom was babysitting to let me go to the pharmacy and I remember looking at the people in the store as if I was an alien from a different planet. You are so tired and disconnected from the world.

But it’s a nice feeling. All you do is loving your child and be there for her needs.

Can’t wait to see her little face!!

xxx

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Rita H. Azar April 27, 2015 at 4:02 pm

Not long to go now! I can’t wait! I’m sure it will be a whole new world for us!
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Jean April 3, 2015 at 11:15 am

Wow, lovely baby shower.
It’s been a long time since I’ve been to one. Interesting, that before my 7 nieces and nephews (from 3 sisters) were born, none of us threw a baby shower for any one of them.

Instead we made sure we visited the hospital the next day after baby was born with our gifts and cards. An exhausted happy mother wants those visits from family members..

And then later, babysitting and play time visits. :)

(Presumably the crib will have padding all around the wooden slats inside the crib..to keep the baby’s head in and from banging into it..)
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Rita H. Azar April 27, 2015 at 4:01 pm

Growing up, baby showers were very popular. But, here in Australia, they are quite a new trend. My sister in law told me she never been to one and didn’t have one herself.
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Jean April 27, 2015 at 9:45 pm

Well, as you know in Canada, baby showers have been around for awhile. It’s just that a number of my friends don’t have children or we’re at an age where it’s adult kids who are entering or finishing university! Ok, grandkids, reminds me how old I am. :) My eldest niece is 30 yrs. and doubtful she will ever have children.

Intriguing about Australia!
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